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So what does being in a relationship have to do with modeling? Depending on your situation and who you're with, it could have a lot to do with your field of work.

For the ladies, if you have a boyfriend who is very jealous, insecure, possessive or overprotective, being a model or pursuing a modeling career may not make him very happy.

It isn't easy for most men to watch their girlfriends be the sex symbol of every man's dreams, or to watch them signing autographs and getting close with male admirers for photographs. The same actually goes for male models with girlfriends as well.

But at the same time, these kinds of situations are ones you need to discuss with your significant other. If this is a career you really want to pursue, it would be wise to take into account the sacrifices you're willing to make because one of them could be breaking up or a temporary separation.

Modeling is going to put you in the public eye and men and women alike are going to fall over themselves to be able to stand next to you and brag to their friends that they met you. Some boyfriends and girlfriends just won't be able to get over the possibility that you'll be heading off to places or meeting new people with fast-paced lives that are more exciting than their own. It's normal for them to worry that they may never see you when they want to or that they'll somehow lose you to someone else.

I've seen and heard of instances where a jealous boyfriend/girlfriend interrupted photo shoots, showed up to an event and caused a scene, as well as models who gave up their careers to keep their relationship together, or who let their careers fall apart by neglecting their modeling duties: showing up late, carrying and using their cell phone to talk to their significant other during shoots, etc. Not a pretty sight.

If you're in a relationship, whether you're male or female, and are planning to get into modeling or are already into it, do yourself and your boyfriend/girlfriend a favor and communicate about what your career is going to need from you and what you will need from him/her to make it work.

Having someone in your life and being in love is a great thing, but it's even greater when that person believes and supports you in what you're doing. If this isn't a situation you're in, you may have to make a difficult choice between your significant other and your modeling career.

Whatever decision you make, make sure that it's your decision and yours alone. Don't allow your potential and talent to be overshadowed by someone who refuses to let you shine.
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Anonymous said…
In other words, date someone you share something in common with because at least it's easier.
April 7, 2011 at 3:50 PM
Anonymous said…
Boyfriends and husbands are the worst because they always suspect every male photographer, male model, or any other guy you work or meet with is going to steal you away and/or be a sexual predator, especially if your guy is so paranoid and shows violent tendencies. Sometimes it's crazy that some female models quit their careers once they find a steady boyfriend and get married, especially if he's a conservative guy and not in the industry, but then some female models are known for cheating on their boyfriends or husbands.
April 8, 2011 at 11:29 AM
Anonymous said…
Not to mention, models are also more likely to divorce or not get married like dancers.
September 25, 2011 at 1:51 PM
Anonymous said…
Loyalty, trust, and honesty play the biggest role in a relationship and should always be mutual. I was unsure about bringing up the idea to my husband, but when I did, he said "WELL IT'S ABOUT DAMNED TIME!" haha

August 16, 2012 at 12:55 PM
Anonymous said…
I mean posing with one or more male models is worse while you're married than posing for a male photographer.
August 17, 2012 at 4:28 PM
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